As I learned to see my submission as strength, to see value in my service, I found myself raising the bar for the Dominant people in my life. I have happy, loving relationships with people I will not submit to. Living authentically, I can love many, but submit to few.
Tokyo’s fetish for fetishes is hardly a secret. The weird, the taboo, the edges of erotic play can all be found in the hundreds of private fetish clubs in the densely-packed metropolis. The birthplace of manga and tentacle porn, Tokyo’s conservatism is a thin canopy that shades a jungle of forbidden desires, erotic art, and kink culture.
Sexologist Dr. Justine Shuey discusses some common misconceptions about BDSM, where those misconceptions come from, and what we can do about them.
Call me an idealist, but I believe it is actually possible to create the authentic communities that we really need.
Wax play can be therapeutic, even when its taken a step beyond candles.
Yes. I play dangerously. We’re drifting towards an event horizon instead of orbiting a sun eternally. We will shatter. The benefits of sexual freedom are bittersweet sometimes. When love is dynamic, the changes can take time. It hurts to adjust.
My tumblr account is definitely NSFW at this point.
If you’ve had a few sex partners, it’s likely you’ve experienced some form of BDSM, even if you aren’t exactly sure what that jumble of letters means. If you’ve ever used a necktie to bind your partner’s wrists to the bedpost, or felt the warm tingle of a slap on your skin and liked it, or murmured blush-inducing adulation of her slutty mouth, then you have already been acquainted with the culture of Kink.
Submission is a study in humility and self-control. Humility requires confidence. Self-control requires strength. Confidence and strength are empowering.
Power exchange is different for everyone, and to each their own. But there are some really quick ways to win the DoucheDom of the Year award. Here are a few.
If there's one thing Vanillas should learn from Kinksters, it's how to talk about consent.
Fetlife is not the Las Vegas of the internet.
How to not be jerk to your kinky friends.
On being a sexual outlaw, the origins of Leathermen, and the frontiers of sexuality.
Low effort power control strategies for lazy dominants.
Bondage is beautiful, but risk aware players also know something about anatomy and care.
To care for someone is to serve them. This is true no matter if you are the one wearing the collar, or the one holding the leash.
The kink community can be a harsh mistress. Before you get whipped, read this.
Kinksters love innuendo, but for once "munch" has nothing to do with cunnilingus.