Kink Curated

How to Collar An Empowered Submissive

As I learned to see my submission as strength, to see value in my service, I found myself raising the bar for the Dominant people in my life. I have happy, loving relationships with people I will not submit to. Living authentically, I can love many, but submit to few.

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Hajime's Shibari: Japanese Rope Bondage

Tokyo’s fetish for fetishes is hardly a secret. The weird, the taboo, the edges of erotic play can all be found in the hundreds of private fetish clubs in the densely-packed metropolis. The birthplace of manga and tentacle porn, Tokyo’s conservatism is a thin canopy that shades a jungle of forbidden desires, erotic art, and kink culture.

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Respected Dallas Rope Artist Talks about Leadership in Kink Communities - Sean Grey Interview (AUDIO)

Sean Grey has been leading through dedicated service to his community for over a decade. I am so grateful that he gave his time to tell me his thoughts on leadership as a service, what makes someone a good leader, and how to keep our communities safe. 

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Counterfeit Kink Communities: Surprise, It's All A Power Trip

The safety of Kinksters is at risk because we fail to be more than a collective of people with similar interests and goals. We fail to hold each other accountable, we fail in supporting each other, and in creating an environment where people feel safe enough to be authentic. 

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Guess where those legislators in Michigan probably got their sex education

We made these legislators. Our schools educated them about sex, sex shame, and sexism. We taught them the culture they are trying to uphold. 

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That Time My Lover Drove Across The Country And Met My Boyfriend

I have consented to be wrecked. “We will shatter,” I said. Now pieces of me at being scattered across the country. I am bruised blue with heartache. But I’m proud of my marks. They're evidence of my strength. This love is beautiful, even shattered to pieces.  

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Yes. I Play Dangerously. I Let Him Take My Breath Away

Yes. I play dangerously. We’re drifting towards an event horizon instead of orbiting a sun eternally. We will shatter. The benefits of sexual freedom are bittersweet sometimes. When love is dynamic, the changes can take time. It hurts to adjust.

Interviews

Deflating the Controversy over Trigger Warning Arm Floaties - Gentleperverts' Social Club Podcast Interview

I sheathed my sharp tongue long enough to discuss the pros and cons of trigger warnings and their effect on how we communicate with each other on the Gentleperverts' Social Club Podcast with Dylan Thomas and Crista Ann. 

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Trigger Warnings Are The Arm Floaties of The Internet

I hate to be the one to break it to you, love. There’s going to be pain in your life. There are going to be moments when you feel like the waters have drifted up over your nose, and you have to stretch to get a breath. It’s going to happen. Consider yourself warned.

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CatalystCon Confessions

You always learn the most when you're interacting with the people between the workshops at sex education conventions like CatalystCon. Don't get me wrong, the workshops are worthy of the price of entrance. But its the intimate moments when all that juicy bits of sexual goodness really hit home.

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Seditious Sex

Inside Iran's Seditious Sex Scene:  It’s Friday. In Tehran, young urbanites are gearing up for the weekend. In the city’s affluent neighborhoods, friends and family of the elite gather behind the relative privacy of four walls to socialize, drink, and let their hair down.